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Because we all speak a different language. Every. Single. One. Of. Us.
By now, most of us can safely, and with more than a modicum of certainty say that the key to any healthy relationship ie, intimate, work, family, the person taking your food order is COMMUNICATION. Yes? Yes. So, why is it also the cause of so many arguments and the one thing that eventually gets avoided because it causes arguments, even though we supposedly know how important it is to get it right?
Because it’s like learning and teaching an entirely new language in like ten minutes.
I’m well into my 40’s, and my S.O. and i argue and disagree like children fighting over who gets the bigger piece of cake, and i expect we always will. It’s how we pick-up the proverbial pieces after that that I’m talking about. When the dust has settled and the emotions aren’t controlling your actions. Yes, this requires revisiting the situation, which may conjure-up the same emotions…if you let it.
Emotions are necessary for letting you and others know what’s important to you. Anger, sadness, joy, etc…we all have them to different degrees and we all deal with them differently. This is what makes a partnership for however short or long you decide to be in it. If you want the other person to behave a certain way, you have to learn how to…
